I am happy to announce that I am married, finally!!!! I am married to a man whom loves, cares, respects, and appreciates me. His name is Pradeep. This man makes me want to strive for better, for that perfection I know I can and will reach. What I love best about this man is not just his sexy body, but his brilliant, intelligent, highly maturely developed brain, which is a major turn on in it’s self. When I first met him I lacked the following, self worth, confidence and courage. However though as I was cleaning our home today it gave me time to really think things through. For one if I was truly that big of a loser, than obviously a man like Pradeep wouldn’t have choosen me for his wife for one.
Number two if I was so lacking in self confidence I wouldn’t of had the courage to leave the relationship I was in when I met him, which wasn’t a healthy one, the man was too old (51) and didn’t have it together, he had no job, no true abmition and didn’t even have the balls to remove roommates whom were taking him for a ride and taking advantage of his genorosity. He let them cause him to lose the roof over his head, all so he could keep me away. That in its self is both foolish and shows a lack of intelligence. Because I was so in love with this man I did wind up wasting a good four years of my life working, striving and waiting for a reality that wasn’t even in the picture, making or even realistic.
I learned a lesson the hard way during these years and in addiction to that thoes years were filled with tension, arguments, and disagreements and that wasn’t just between me and Rafael, it was also with my family whom didn’t really agree too much with the relationship, they tried to warn me, on more than one occation, I thought they were wrong and even my (ex) had me manipulated and fooled into thinking he was right and they didn’t know what they were talking about.
There is a lesson in here to be learned which is why I am sharing this blog right now, that is this, pay close attention to whom you get involved with, choose someone closer to your own age whom has something going on with their life, someone who is actually working toward something and whom wants you in there life, if they put up roadblocks and barriers to keep you out, than there is a good chance they are not that deeply, emotionaly invested in you and are only looking out for their own interests, and if your family tries to warn you that he or she is not a good fit and not a suitable match for you, there is usually a reason. It is only on a rare occations that your families instincts about your significant other are wrong.
Even though it took me four years of heartace, bitterness and problems I am so lucky, greatful and happy to find the one that I have found. Some would leave because they would just mark me off as someone with too much bagage. My man helps me through out my bagage and work through it, because he is emotionally intelligent enough to understand that even though someone comes with bagage that doesn’t mean nessarily that the bagage will stay and fester around them or their significant other.
Because of my significant others love for me I was finally about to see whom I truly am inside and out, my bagage feels like it has finally gone away from my life and for that I am truly, deeply greatful.
For all you young adult women and teenage girls out there, take a lesson from this. What I am talking about here is not just the run of the mill nonsense it’s a life lesson that will help you develope into a more mature, confident and self sufficent woman. Don’t let love cloud your judgement and cause you to make mistakes that can easily be prevented.